Salam guys i am in depressed for My husband he is not love me true also come with me just for sex then he leaves me he is the daily routine of his now i am 4 months pragnant of his baby he is not a truly loves me he is just using me every night i am very tierd his behaviour now i just want to leave him but i can not do this because all the problems will facing me and My baby i am just 17 years old and My husband is 31 years old and the time of My marriage life is just 7 months My husband is saying me i want a baby now i am pragnant he dose not care me love me he is only come with me when he wants sex with me otherwise he is dose not guys help me give me a advise how can i handle My husband how can i get a good happy married life what can i dooooo guys.??? I started feeling frustrated from him and that house and my life I wanted to kill myself run away my needs werent fulfilled I used to die from cold n no one used to ask me. 2) It clearly says if the man sleeps angry, then she will be cursed. I dont know if I should go away, dissappear. He created man from water (semen), then He made man has offspring and mushaharah (family relationships by marriage) and is the Lord of the Almighty ( Verse 25: 54), The second marriage can be done as long as you do not marry two women at once. Not to insult, I didnt mean it like that. He said that I wasn't attractive and that he wants to spend the remainder of his life with a young and attractive woman. A man who wants to do a second marriage, it means he keeps the womans honor. one is in the case of polygamy he can refuse her husband of it if its in the nikkah contract. The part about sex is ridiculous. i agree with u kay. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. 100355. Thus, you are right when you ask how can this be right if it is destroying the first family. Your husband must be open and transparent with you in this matter and realize that his decision is detrimental to his current family if he does not resolve your lack of participation. yeah sure , hell like that. I really like your article however there are some contradictions in it. I feel. Asian women are used to this and don't see anything wrong with it. He does not share the same bed with you for weeks What does a Women do then? Your dream is a premonition for a memory and brain power. He has passwords on his phone and computer and will not let me see. To those of you brothers who work at trying to be kind, considerate and loving to your wives, may Allah give you an enormous reward. Why is she told to be patient and only concentrate on her aakhira and ask Allah for sabr and endurance and try to behave well, even better than before to her husband so as not to lose her place in his heart or in his life? His last words to me were that he had a headache and is going to lie down till Esha. A barren wife, this is one of the factors that could make a mans reason for a second marriage. If you only learn to use it properly. I cant tell you that the same might apply to the husband if he refuses, but its his duty in Islam to satisfy his wife in intercourse and he cant just go to sleep without fulfilling that. I am a woman but I know men very good . This means that these people do not wish to marry women. commitment. ALLAAH made them that way. According to my teachers, the first wife does not even have the right to give consent to her husband if he wants to marry another wife as long as he treats her justly. Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire whereof the fuel is men and stones, over which are set angels strong, severe, who resist not Allah in that which He commandeth them, but do that which they are commanded. (Verse 66: 6). Why is a man allowed to marry more than one wife in Islam? So inshAllaah we just have to be patient with this idea, even if we are a bit jealous. Does the husband need the first wifes permission to have a second wife? Abu Dawud). Try to reconcile all the lack of trust or resentment. I feel that he is not having any love for me. (Sidetracked). The marriage of a woman during pregnancy is also mentioned in the compilation of Islamic law and the law is allowed by weighing all its merits and mudharatnya. May Allah guide us all to the right path.Ameen. Our minds collect things and remember much better than we think. It doesnt mean hes going to cheat on you. Brothers, marriage involves two people. Search it yourself. i loved a muslim man. Whats up with sarcasm at the beginning of your post is wifey ignoring you. Why do you think men work so hard to make money? Yes it says in the quran that men can have four wives, but it is for a reason, and the quran is written in such a way that you can argue Kays point. That is not to say that some very small minded muslim men dont take proper meaning in the hadith and use it to their advantage, and actually their disadvantage because they lose the love, loyalty trust and respect of their wives. Annie, I realize this article dated from 2017 and you asked a fantastic question. I will always read this article when ever i feel down or start to loose hope in my marriage. Chapter 4, Verse 34 2. Excerpted, with slight modifications, form: www.islam-qa.com will question you on the Day of Resurrection? Its ridiculous. abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing righteous good Ive sat and told my husband how i feel and he does nothing, Ive done nothing but encourage my husband in the nicest possible way to do something with his life, run his own business etc but it falls on deaf ears now i have resorted to confiding in my family when Im down and cant take no more. For shame! stabbing him in the back by tearing apart his family, so that his home and I get so tired of reading articles like this. Does everyone here agree with #4? 7. However, if the woman disliked this action, and did not want to give her husband this right, then it was her responsibility to mention this in the marriage contract. To explain further: if a Muslim woman prays istikhaarah about No one should have to have sex if they dont want to! There was an immediate connection between us. same does not apply to husband my dear.. thats what I hate about the whole thing.. there is not a word said particularly as an order like it is said to a woman through ahadith and verses of Quran to say yes to her husbands needs. Your just Jealous!!! If you sincerely repent from your heart, then Allah SWT is Most Merciful and will wipe away your sins and transform them into good deeds. This will add to your familial kinship relationship. 1. If she is telling you otherwise its bcuz she thinks thia is the best she can hope for with u and ur marriage is in big trouble. Im living the same exact situation. If he is willing to risk our marriage, our life, our children for another woman, then he must go ahead. But its true (usually). This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Ds my true life I am leaving with Allahs mercy. InshaAllah we all better ourselves and our relationships. It is possible that your husband was pressured by his parents to marry. of reaching you or your family or children. I am sure it is in the context that husbands should try to coax their wives, instead of saying lets go. Both were married too. You have all the right to maintain your self respect and If he still marries another woman without your consent he is destroying your self respect. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. As in one of the hadith below is one of the stories how the Prophet SAW fair to his wives. Below is one of the verses of the Quran that explains this. Krishna had several wives. The reaction of most of these women show exactly why this article is called 7 things your husband wont tell you Jazaakallahu khayran. When I met her, she was a person, a woman like me. He Wants To Have Sex More Often Yet he yells and gets angry if I ask why. i`m sleeping alone. and dont let someone walk over you. because the husband might demand sex and the wife would be refusing it due to her fasting. This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. If you feel something wrong then do some research on that topic and InshaALLAH you will obviously get your answer. this young man and has made him attractive to you so that he may achieve go back to the initial thesis statement ( make sure you know what the issue really was, read the answer again and if you still dont know, sit with your husband and make sure you both understand what the question and answer were talking about. Is ther daleel for this, or do you know about another reward?. Muslim men and women not married by the rules of Muslim marriage (nikah) are not allowed to chat. To put him back on track, just reduce your level of love to the minimum level which is your duty, and he will do everything to get you and that extra love and care back I dont mean sex only, by Love. my husband is never happy, he will open mouth to criticize, if salt was less, or it tested bland. May I point out that marriage is very hard experience for both parties. What a dumb thing to mention. Why is it always about how men are and how we shld respect them , when they never respect us they take Us women for granted . I have conferted to muslim 15 years now Every word is not only recorded here but also recorded forever for AKHARAT. 2. to ask Allah of all that is good for you according to HIM. There are many women in here that have gone out of the fold of islam due to their own personal opinions contrary to what Allah swt has decreed. A man in Islam should only marry no more and no less than 4 wives only. Where are the unending advices to men about the dangers of treating their wives like property, second class citizens or servants? Quran permits limited polygyny As I mentioned earlier, Quran is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says marry only one. I again put this in my nikkah. Everyone is touched by time, but who he is inside is what matters. man destroy your life and your family. This is a sign of their lack of reason and religious Please think before you write, you are saying that the Hadith is ridiculous. So really, #4 about him thinking of other women is not bad, that is his right. You cant know this because no one knows whats in the mind of every man. May be its a new beggining of life which Allah knows more and he is the creator and Almighty. ALLAH knows about us more then we know our on self. I need some advice, it is a sin for a married muslim man to have a relationship with a Christian white woman or is it their right to have a girlfriend ? 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